lol Its cool man, I can see where somebody could view it as that. People have every right to want what they want in a mate,..within reason. About how each time she sleeps I do not disagree with a lot you just said. You cannot truly understand or know a person until you know just about everything. Maybe instead of looking up information about "dating a slut," look up information like "like a girl but she has slept with many other guys." This post also feels like a way to almost look for what I want to hear i.e. The fact remains that the women with the lowest divorce rate in our liberal Western culture (not an alien culture or religion) are those who are more educated, higher income earners and marry later. It is actually a fact that the more partners a woman has had, the more likely the marriage is to fail, source:https://socialpathology.blogspot.com/2010/09/sexual-partner-divorce-risk.html I was promiscuous in 9th-10th grade. Text can be very ambiguous. My parents argued constantly when I was a child and still do to this day. I may not be properly explaining this but I hope you get what I am trying to say. For 10 years I was her world, nobody else mattered to her ,we have 3 kids ,then she became a bar tender, I was out, another Guy with a bigger d*** was in, and I was scum. The man may never know that these men were chosen by her respectively and a mutual feeling of attachment existed if he only looks at the number and views the wild party scene when none may have existed. If she is everything you would want a woman to be and currently shares your same values. I agree to disagree on your comment. So when women say that having sex with lots of men is somehow acting like men, they are wrong. If u lie they woild find out. If she is so comfortable with her sexuality and sex drive, be honest about the number. You will get married to Joe. embarrassing. I did and am again. Btw, there is only one true ALPHA in this entire universe. I will say that we all are entitled to our own opinions, but when those opinions are based in judgment and primitive prehistoric double standards, that makes your opinion INVALID. I understand some of your arguements. but not an automatic deal-breaker. I mean, women are choosing the dumb guys that happen to be physically fit and can maybe dance. However, a guy can be just as much of a slut as a gal. Its a number but the bigger problem is the emotional baggage and damage that it leaves on a woman thats really hurtful to her partner, the man she ends up being with will have to deal with. 2023 Applicants - do you understand how student finance works? Women on the other hand get slandered, disrespected, and chastised for their choice to be promiscuous at any point in their lives. People are different and can change! It seems that its not the case. Hi Stephan, I dont see where you think I was insulting others. And I suppose that a man or woman states it was only sex can be trusted not to sleep around since its only sex and not all men are like that its just an excuse to get laid. Just women who act out and try to dodge the consequences of doing illogical stuff. ) 2) men and women are wired differently. For instance a girl had sex with 20 men(but we dont know numbers) and they were all her boyfriends then in that case she wouldnt be a hoe. At the end of the day we all have to decide what is most important. If she is raped, she is at fault and will be executed period. Just wanted to throw out there that this isnt always the case. maintenance issues. Amen brother. We all make judgments all the time. For good or bad You are also correct about women who men know have gotten around will have a much harder time finding a man, which is why most women lie and will take some of these secrets to their grave. Excellent point. If you Generally speaking, women can have sex with whoever they choose, the same cannot be said for men. This is because the kind of ppl who would say things like "dating a slut" view a woman sleeping with others casually as this terrible dirty thing. Wouldnt you feel like you are worthless? She kind of a whore an unpaid whore. Redpill and PUA groups can't do that because their inherent premise is that women are lesser and that abusive action is acceptable toward them. The number of sexual partners a woman has had does not determine what type of woman she is. Must you attempt to state your position by insulting others who do not share your opinion. Actions and deeds speak more loudly than words. Reply 122. And no, the man is not estimating. Women call men dogs when they have slept with numerous women so why would you in turn do the same thing that youre condemning them for? Either way I think all women when put in the right relationship (and have taken time to heal & love themselves) are capable of operating as the best women they can be. They give birth. Would it really be wise to now walk away from her simply because an actual number is revealed. Thats why I want to marry him. Hallelujah!!! If you're honest more than likely you wouldn't. You also assume that these women who love sex you reserve it for the men they love actually have love prospects. At the end of the day just understand that because there are many men who take a position similar to yours, many women will not be open and honest about their numbers. Ugh. Sleeping around especially as a girl is similar. Its the woman you wanted. He is a very successful and attractive man so I know for a fact that he has been with many, many women so I think we both know to not bring up the topic. Its not about the sex. I have yet to meet a woman that has had more than 50 sex partners and was in a solid, healthy, balanced, loving relationship. Anything you know is toxic? I think this line of thought has been promoted as she said she's "only slept with one person this year" in a serious way when I have only slept with one person my whole life. What you do with your body matters. I am already spoken for. Also women (and some men) get bored quickly these days. Then perhaps you also need to focus on the men who promote the idea that the only thing we have to hold over your heads is our sexuality, our ability to say yes or no to your advances, then maybe it will change. So many women who have waited seem to not be as open minded. so if you been with a lot of people you are NASTY!!! lose this person, they are exactly what you were looking for and they actually a man after sex, and not valuing her as the woman she is inside. I see a lot of people replying to this kinda rudely, which I understand. Personally, I think that men and women should strive to have a lower number of sexual partners but I don't think that women should try to act like men in the thinking that having numerous partners is a good thing. Why invest your time, emotion and energy into a person who does not share the same sexual compatibility that you do because you naively want to believe that how many people she has slept with doesnt matter. As ryaninfamous pointed out, women have the power to practically have sex with any man they want, whenever they want. A woman who cheats on her husband has violated their relationship. Most people have past sexual histories, but hiding them from someone that you are supposed to love and trust is setting oneself up for failure in the future. I dont think they should, but they will and that man will never know. life. Your comment finally got past moderation and was improved. I will say that there are plenty reasons why it would be best for all to wait that can be applied to anybody regardless of their spiritual affiliation. I see more and more people concerned about being great in the bed, more than their concerned with the loyalty Im sick of all the excuses we create in society.. Diseases are incredibly rampant.. know them well and knew it wasnt going to be a relationship. If you did respect her, you wouldn't really be having this conversation, would you? You hold your partners to standards that you hold yourself. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Its refreshing. Should the number of men she has slept with really help determine if a man should be with a specific woman? Okay So clearly Im not assuming old-fashioned = not a slut. Maybe if you learn to use it, you wont have to ask other people to do your work for you. The good news is women dumb enough to believe the feminist hype also the type that never learn that guys lie to get laid. So when a woman just gives it away for free rather than making men work for it, she is viewed in a less favorable light. Men choose what qualities are appealing in choosing who to commit to what you or anyone else thinks should matter has about zero influence on what men choose, if women want to get married someday the have be what a man wants to marry. reading this I can see that you only wrote this to make yourself believe that its OK you slept with a 100 guys . You know, there are a lot of people who always try to talk HIM out of existence maybe because they're really HOPING that HE doesn't exist. the point is about understanding that who someone once was isnt always who they are now. Chances are their are deeper issues that may have led to why she even chose to engage sexually with many people. It's a case of attraction. And if you married in your 30's so much for having a family. If you are dating with marriage in mind, it is important to look for qualities that would make someone a good life partner. If someone says he has slept with 100 women, who is sleeping around more, the Men or the Women? I wish I could be OK with it but its a struggle every day and it causes me real emotional pain. The reality is that this can happen with a woman who has had very few partners or many partners. What I noticed about these two women as well as my female friends and colleagues is that women who have had a large number of sexual partners often have different values and a different outlook onrelationship behaviorthan those that have not. We are called to Love, but how can we do that if we allow ourselves to judge and demonize others for their past decisions. You havent listed any statistics relevant to the discussion. You make an excellent point and I wanted to leave the door open to a separate post that would address the trust issue as well as the why she has slept with so many men. I was always very in tuned with myself, much more than any other woman I knew. But since sex is expensive for women, she gets to choose. Would you REALLY want to buy that car after you heard that? Promiscuous people usually are incapable of having long-term standard to societys other ills; Honey, yes, I raped a couple of In other words quit pointing fingers at others when you know full-well that you are just as much a sinner! But be careful with your in-person reaction to your significant other's confession. I feel sorry for whoever marries the likes of you. Which will deter women from not being the innocent virgin that so many men desired. If u need to walk away sometimes and have a breath of fresh air. If a woman has been with multiple men and ashamed to tell the current man in her life, in my opinion that makes her dishonest. Women lie about their past(and men know it) and Men in turn lie about love and marriage . Guys in sports, entertainment and the military normally are cheaters. Dont judge. So having lots of casual sex it a good indicator that a woman has emotional problems. Its not a try, its simply a fact. Where to begin 9. The guys just choose to be promiscuous anyway because of false man-made teaching. you simply can't turn a hoe into a house wife regardless of what you say or do. It is difficult for women like that to pair-bond. Men stand to lose their homes, assets and children even when they were the ones who honored their vows, to have and to hold, for better or worse. Labeling them as whores and not worthy of a relationship isnt going to resolve the real problem here. Be happy you have a girl. Show her that you've got more to offer than those others who weren't good enough and you'll do fine. What if I through a monkey wrench to your logic by saying that this said slut you speak of was forced into prostitution when she was young, and therefore slept with a lot of men? I will respect your point of view, however, as a blogger of a highly controversal and relevant subject you should try to put yourself at our vantage point as well: in a time where mens rights are routinely violated by the judicial and family court system, A LOT (not all) divorces are initiated by women who have had affairs outside of the marriage. Therefore I believe a woman should be more selective in who she chooses. Like half my high school classmates were married by 22 and there were peobably more men and women in my classes in college talking about their girlfriends they adore or fiances or their wives than any amount of dudes talking about casual hookups. Women who are virgins when they marry are not usually from liberal Western culture, theirs is a culture that encourages stoning for divorce or infidelity. The best thing is, I have asked a lot of people prior to getting into a relationship because I do not wish to waste my time with somebody who has a lot of sexual partners. on the lookout for new sex partners, because they dont value physical I continued to live. Altamera74, from a chicks point of view, you are going to end up a very sad and lonely man if you take that sort of attitude into your life when it comes to choosing a partner.. Beauty fades, parts get old. That doesnt define who you will be.. It encourages an atmosphere of male entitlement. Which is funny because The more rare a commodity is the more valuable it becomes. My message is simple, life and relationships require truth. EXACTLY and guess what: YOU ARE BEING JUDGED for having the wrong amount! THIS IS REALITY. Not really. 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